Last week I got an email from Sigma Kappa in celebration of my 10 year anniversary as a member. Somewhere in the back of my mind I knew this anniversary was coming up, but it was fun to have the official reminder. Ladies in my new member class posted the anniversary image/email to social media with comments along the lines of “thanks for the reminder I’m old.” Although I’ve had my “I’m old and my teeth are rotting straight out of my mouth” moments here, this was not my reaction at all. I thought it was a fun opportunity to reflect. Sometimes 10 years doesn’t seem like that much time, but when I try to imagine 20-year-old Sarah she’s very much a stranger. I remember her and that phase and loved it all, but wow she was so different. With two years away from graduating college, single, and in a VERY flexible, “what are you going to do with that?” major, there were so many directions in which she could go. Her possibilities endless. Don’t misunderstand. I don’t feel trapped with limited options now. I don’t want to change places with her for a second, but she’s got my attention with this anniversary reminder. The fall of 2003 was such a life changing period for me, and everything happening then seemed like the most important thing ever and the feelings of it all were so intense at the time. And 10 years from now I will feel the exact same way about 30-year-old Sarah and be intrigued by her and her intense feelings and, fingers crossed, not want to trade places.
Anyway, I thought it would be fun to fill out a little survey so we could all enjoy 20-year-old Sarah together (who is very long-winded, so bare with her)…(and keep scrolling because husband joined in on the fun too!)
10 Years Ago…
- Were there any major milestones? I transferred from Salisbury University to the University of Maryland. I changed my major from Interpersonal Communications with a minor in US History to a major in American Studies (Maryland doesn’t have minors). I joined Sigma Kappa Sorority, something I never thought I would do. All of these were the best decisions of my life up to that point.
- Where did you live? College Park, MD in a teeny, tiny house. I had just transferred to the University of Maryland and couldn’t live in a dorm.
- Who did you live with? There were six of us in the house. Megan and Stephanie were on the first floor with me. Corey, Eric, and Ryan were in the basement. (I’m so impressed I remember their names!)
- What car did you drive? A silver Volkswagen Beetle! I loved that car. I don’t remember the year but it was the newer model, not a model from the ‘60s.
- Who was your best friend? Angie and Ashley, who I’m still friends with today!
- Were you in a relationship? No. Maybe a few crushes and a few awkward, forced dates to Sigma Kappa events thanks to my sisters, but nothing that went anywhere.
- How did you spend most of your time? Although Sigma Kappa didn’t haze at all, being a new member was really time consuming! I spend lots of time there. I could also be found studying/writing papers. When I transferred I became an American Studies major, which wasn’t a great fit for me and I spent a lot of time on school work so I wouldn’t fail (and I didn’t!). I also went to the occasional party.
- Were you involved in any activities? At Maryland, Sigma Kappa only. I had a radio show at Salisbury before I transferred.
- What were your favorite TV shows? Embarrassingly, I LOVED that show The Simple Life with Paris Hilton and Nicole Ritchie! I watched Queer Eye for the Straight Guy from time to time and That 70’s Show.
- What were you favorite bands or songs? CRAZY IN LOVE!! Still my most favorite wedding song to this day! Oh, Beyoncé. But, this was such a weird year for me in terms of music. My radio show was dedicated to alternative, Indie, 80’s, and classic rock. After joining Sigma Kappa all of a sudden I understood why people liked pop (it’s so catchy!), and I felt like a traitor to my hippie high school boyfriend even though we didn’t keep in touch. So, I was still trying to hang on to my love of The Strokes, Yeah Yeah Yeahs, John Mayer, White Stripes, Coldplay, and Interpol were still carryover favorites. But was also totally into Outkast “Hey Ya!”, Black Eyed Peas (although they were just starting to make their transition from Indie-ish into pop at the time), and 50 Cent…I think.
- Did you have a job? At Salisbury I worked in the library, I was a customer service representative at a local bank in Hagerstown during breaks, and I worked in the Communications Office at Maryland reviewing articles about professors.
- What was your favorite restaurant? Chipotle and Noodles. Cheesecake Factory was a real treat.
- What was your favorite piece of clothing/outfit? I showed up to a sorority recruitment event with a handmade jean skirt (the kind where you cut the bottom leg of the jean off and insert it between the two pieces at the top of the leg). The fact that Sigma Kappa did not turn me away on the spot is proof it was the place for me. I believe I wore a lot of black during this period of time, and during Parents’ Weekend my mom was like, “alright that’s it, we’re buying you something purple!” and I ended up with a purple turtle neck from Old Navy. I also had to have an emergency shopping trip to find something “going out” appropriate and it was an incredibly awkward experience. While awkward, I am as put together as I am today because of Sigma Kappa (with some credit going to my dad too).
- What did your hair look like? Short, short! Cut to about my ears and I spiked it out in the back. I loved it at the time, but I’m not sure it was my best hair moment. I started to grow it out fall semester.
- What were your future goals? I wanted to be a museum curator and planned to get a Master’s in Library Science right after undergrad.
I also thought it would be fun to hear a little about 23-year-old Sean. And what a good sport he agreed to answer my questions!! (He’s very concise, as you would expect.)
10 Years ago…
- How old were you? I was 23.
- Where did you live? I lived in Dupont Circle in Washington, DC, in a studio apartment.
- What car did you drive? A 2003 Acrua RSX Type-S. To this day probably my favorite car I’ve ever owned.
- Who was your best friend? I’m not sure there really was anyone I would have classified as a best friend that year. I was waiting for Favorite.
- How did you spend most of your time? As I recall I was playing a lot of online poker at the time, as well as working full time as a paralegal.
- Involved in any specific activities? Aside from work and poker, I studied for the LSAT starting in July of that year through November I think. About 4 hours 4 or 5 days a week. I ended up taking every practice LSAT ever published by LSAC.
- What were your favorite TV shows? Wow. If Alias was on back then, that was probably it. Otherwise I have no clue.
- What were you favorite bands or songs? I can’t remember, unfortunately. Similar to Sarah, I distinctly remember Crazy in Love that year, and have a memory of listening to it playing poker.
- Did you have a job? I was a paralegal.
- What was your favorite restaurant? Chipotle.
- What was your favorite piece of clothing/outfit? Absolutely no idea. I’m sure I owned nothing but khaki pants and ill-fitting dress shirts.
- What did your hair look like? I think it was spiked up in the front.
- What were your future goals? Make it through 1-2 years of being a paralegal and go to law school.
Remember when I contemplated that I may not have appreciated Sean had I not met him before some eh experiences in my 20’s. Maybe I’m biased (and perhaps still swooning over answer #4), but I want to take that back after reading this. I mean c’mon he remembers Crazy in Love too!! Don’t you just want to meet 23-year-old Sean with spiked hair, playing online poker, and making his law school dreams come true? Oh, I love him!